The Bible gives specific and very practical advice that helps marriages to become and stay healthy: if you are married, then please do not refuse the sexual intercourse with your partner. Many people suffer because their partner doesn’t understand their God-given desire for sex.
Refusing sex can destroy marriages, because it drives people to despair so they seek satisfaction elsewhere and often in a sinful way, eventually resulting in great emotional pain. People don’t only need sex for the release of their hormones, but also to know their partners really LOVE them. That’s why the apostle Paul said:
‘The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.’ (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
This biblical and godly advice is a major key for many people to overcome sin and loneliness in their marriage. It is not fair for a woman to for example blame her husband because he struggles with pornography, while she refuses to give him what he needs.
Respect your partner, love him, serve one another also with your body. It is an act of love, when you allow your partner to come to you, even if you struggle with it.
This is love in action. Christ gave up Himself for our salvation, as an example. If you struggle with this, seek counseling please. It’s not worth destroying your marriage. God has a plan to bring joy and peace in your marriage.
Manipulation is sin
Some women manipulate their husbands with sex, with is a serious sin. Please don’t do this – ever! Don’t force your husband to do what you want him to do, by allowing or refusing sexual intercourse. That is so hurtful and wrong.
Serve him, honor him and love him. Don’t manipulate him, which is the sin of witchcraft.
For many women, whose husband is not serving the Lord, it can be a key to major breakthrough, if you start truly LOVING and serving him, in every way. This is what Jesus showed us: love and sacrifice is the key to overcoming evil. Show respect, stop fighting, but love, serve, bless, honor, etc. That will touch his heart with the heart of God. And it will set you free from a demon of rebellion and manipulation.
This is what the Spirit of God tells us, through the apostle Peter:
‘Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.’ (1 Peter 3:1-6)