Sexual sin keeps millions of people in bondage. This article helps you break free.
What you need to know first of all, is that God is a loving Father who understands your struggle with sin. He is not against you, but He is entirely on your side to help you overcome sin, so you can become radiant in His glory and enjoy the abundant life He has planned for you. Don’t think God is angry at you, because you have sinned. He is compassionate, merciful, gracious and He is your best Friend and your tenderly loving Father, who passionately loves you.
God is for you, on every side, willing and able to help you overcome sin, so you can enjoy freedom and life to the full.
One of the most powerful bible verses about the compassionate heart of God, is palm 103:
‘The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness.
He will not always strive with us, nor will He keep His anger forever.
He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him.
As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.
Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him.
For He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust.’
It is crucial to know God’s heart of mercy towards you, in order to get victory over the sins you struggle with. When you think God is angry, you will shy away from Him, and end up in even deeper shame and bondage. So please know the love of God, who is reaching out to you every day, to help you break free and become a brand new person.
God created your sexuality
Remember that your sexuality is not a sin, but a gift. God created sex and all the desires that come with it. He create your body, your sensitive skin, your nerves and brains, your emotions, your dreams, your hormones, everything! Therefor God does not condemn you for having natural desires for sexual intimacy. He created them! The ungodly world however does everything it can to destroy your sexuality and pervert it, so it becomes a curse instead of a blessing. Your heavenly Father fully knows this battle and He understands how hard it can be for you, to be the target of this attack.
God is not angry at you, because you wrestle with sexual sin.
God loves you and He weeps with you, when you struggle and fall. He knows that in the depths of your heart, you don’t want to sin. You know it doesn’t give true happiness or love. He wants to restore your sexuality so it becomes a glorious gift that brings forth life and not death.
Sin does not define you
You must understand the truth that you do not belong to sin. It is not who you are. It is not a part of you. You are not a porn-addict, a homosexual or a pervert. You are a beloved child of God. You are a royal son or daughter of the King of kings. You belong to HIM and to HIM alone.
‘See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are. ‘ (1 John 3:1)
Don’t think your sin is who you are. You are not doomed to submit to sexual sin. You are not. You are a child of the Father forever and ever. That is your identity!
‘The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God.’ (Romans 8:16)
Knowing your true identity is a major key to break the stronghold of sin and shame.
When you sin, run to the Father
Know that your heavenly Father is waiting for you to run into His arms. He knows you and He understands. His love will help you overcome this lie. Sexual sin is a lie, it is false love, false intimacy, false satisfaction, false comfort. Sin will never help you. It will destroy your heart and life, if you allow it to reign over you. So hide in the love of the heavenly Father and seek His embrace. Be honest with Him. Before Him you stand naked and vulnerable, He knows it all. And He calls you His beloved child, precious and blessed, royal and destined for His glory.
Breaking free from porn addiction
If you struggle with porn addiction, then the following insights may help you slay this dragon of lust and addiction. I turned my back on pornography when I gave my life to Jesus Christ (25 years ago) and the Lord helped me stay free, all these years. I believe He gave me some keys, that helped me stay free. I want to hare these keys with you, to help you become and stay free as well.
A dragon of sexual sin
The major key is to know that when you look at pornography you are not only looking at humans. You are looking at demons in humans. The people you look at, are just puppets in the claws of spirits that use them to destroy others, through sexual sin.
It’s more than just a human activity. The real power behind pornography is a spirit that works worldwide to destroy men and women, who are dearly loved by God.
The Bible says we are not waging war against flesh and blood but against principalities in the heavenly realms.
‘Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.’ (Ephesians 6:10-13)
This is a major insight to overcoming pornography: know that you are engaging with DEMONS, not just people. Having virtual sex with a demonic spirit suddenly seems a whole less attractive, doesn’t it?
Sin destroys you
The second key to overcoming the sin of pornography, is realizing that it brings DESTRUCTION. It destroys your mind and your heart. You lose true love and become a slave of lust. Your mind is defiled and the ability to love purely is damaged. It destroys marriages, relationships, happiness, peace, purity, God’s call for your life, and so much more.
Jesus said satan is a liar and murderer, who comes to steal and destroy. Recognize this strategy behind sin: it destroys you.
If you allow sexual sin in your life, you open the door for darkness that will kill, steal and destroy your life. Don’t do it. It’s absolutely not worth it.
The Bible book of Proverbs is called the book of Wisdom, in which God reveals life saving insights to help us avoid the pitfalls of sin and walk on the path of life. Proverbs chapter seven compares foolishness to a prostitute who is a ‘highway to the chambers of death’:
‘Then out came a woman to meet him,
dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.
With persuasive words she led him astray;
she seduced him with her smooth talk.
All at once he followed her
like an ox going to the slaughter,
like a deera stepping into a nooseb
till an arrow pierces his liver,
like a bird darting into a snare,
little knowing it will cost him his life.
Now then, my sons, listen to me;
pay attention to what I say.
Do not let your heart turn to her ways
or stray into her paths.
Many are the victims she has brought down;
her slain are a mighty throng.
Her house is a highway to the grave,
leading down to the chambers of death.’
Sin wrecks God’s dreams over your life
A third key to overcome this pitfall, is knowing pornography can hinder God’s amazing call over your life. It may stay hidden for a long time, but in the end it will blow up your life and ministry and it will damage or even completely wreck God’s dream over your life. Hidden sin is always exposed, sooner or later. Just think of the many famous men of God who have fallen, the past years. Sin never helps you, it always hurts you. Always. Stop it and overcome this dragon.
Wage war against sin
A fourth key is: make a decision to become a modern day dragon slayer. This may sound a bit strange, but what we need these days is true knights of the Lord. Soldiers of Christ. Not with words, but in actions.
Real men and woman, who fight the monsters in the darkness, when nobody is looking.
It’s easy to speak the right words on a platform. It’s a whole different thing to be like David in the Bible, who fought the lions and bears, with nobody to applaud! Only God saw him and helped him, in the lonely wilderness. Make a decision to be a true warrior. Be prepared to suffer and to persevere. Recognize attacks and tackle them. Overcome sin as a real warrior. When you know you are in a war, that helps you to recognize and overcome! You know: this is not me, it is the enemy who tries to let me fall.
Don’t let sin win
The fifth key is also crucial: when you fall, stand up again. Satan wants to throw you down in the dirt of your sins, only to jump on top of you and accuse you, so you would stay down. Don’t stay in the dirt. Stand up again, shake it off and move forward. You must know that GOD IS ON YOUR SIDE! He sees the attacks, and He is here with you, to help you overcome! Stand up, repent, shake it off, cleanse yourself with the blood of Jesus Christ, put your armor on again and move forward. Falling down is not the defeat – staying down is!
Cast out spirits that cause sin
The sixth key is: if you believe there may be a spirit connected to your struggle with sexual sin, then seek prayer for deliverance with other christians who are filled with the Holy Spirit. This may be helpful for some, who can’t seem to break free.
You can also set yourself free, by loudly proclaiming, with all your heart:
“I have been bought by Jesus Christ with His own blood. I belong to Him and Him alone! My body is a dwelling place for the Holy Spirit and I am holy and pure. Jesus Christ is my Lord and my King. He reigns over me, my body, my life, my family. Every knee MUST bow to Jesus Christ. He is the Lord of lords and King of kings. I have been cleansed and my sins have been forgiven by HIS BLOOD. I command every demon to leave me now, in the name of Jesus Christ! Satan, leave me, and every spirit that is not from the Lord Jesus Christ, leave me and my life and my family.”
Keep proclaiming the lordship and authority of Jesus Christ over your life and body. I often pray this, for very area of my life. I encourage you to copy this prayer and pray it regularly. Pray in an aggressive way: rebuke the enemy and cast him out. This is a key to breakthrough. Speak to the enemy and command him to leave you, in the glorious and victorious name of the Lord Jesus Christ, who died for you at the cross and who rose from the dead, now reigning as the highest name above all names, forever and ever. He is the Lord of all, and every knee MUST bow down to Him.
So cast out the demons in His mighty and holy name and receive the complete and total CLEANSING of your body, soul and spirit.
So there are three crucial steps you must take:
1) Repent from your sin
2) Receive forgiveness
3) Cast out every evil spirit
God created sex
The last key: please now that God created you as a sexual being. Sex is a gift, not a curse. If you stay pure and holy, then He can bless you with godly intimacy, as He intended. Then it is a source of joy and not a source of suffering and shame.
The book of Genesis describes how God first created man, to be God’s friend and the ruler over all of creation. Then it shows how God created man’s best friend in life: a woman. See the tremendous beauty of this. God did not say to the man: ‘I am the only Friend you will ever have’. No, He saw the longing in Adam and gave him a lover for life.
‘The Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.’
Notice how the Word of God says they were both naked and not ashamed? Their sexuality was as normal as the sunlight, both created by God, and they enjoyed it with pure hearts and pure minds, in the goodness of their God and Father.
God is with you
Finally I encourage you to know, once and for all, the Father is ON YOUR SIDE. You are not fighting God, okay? He is fighting WITH you and He gives you amazing grace, to overcome sin. Know His grace, His love, His mercy, His compassion, His long-suffering, His patience, His heart FOR YOU and this will help you break free from the suffocating grip of this snake. You are destined for victory. Christ payed for you with HIS OWN BLOOD. May His light shine very bright in your life. Let’s be pure, as He is pure. He is light and in Him there is NO darkness at all. He called you into His light, now WALK in His light.